Dealing With Setbacks

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Guess who was the butt of jokes from both friends & family?! After multiple failed attempts, a hell of a lot of money spent, numerous tears shed and many setbacks, I have finally passed!

Why on earth did it take you so long?! Well, I wanted to focus on A levels and my degree, so postponed learning to drive until I was more settled, with fewer distractions. Summer 2015 I began my search for driving instructors and stumbled upon Darren’s* website. I was blown away by the incredible ratings, many of which were given by people I knew. Although expensive, I decided to go ahead as the reviews were so good. I mean, you get what you pay for, right? I was wrong.

The first Lesson

Of course, like many inexperienced learner drivers, I was awful! Like walking, it is paramount to learn the basics before you can run. My first lesson involved driving on national speed limit roads, with roundabouts etc. I was thrown in at the deep end, which isn’t ideal! That first lesson, many expletives were directed at me. I swerved, stalled, cried and nearly had numerous accidents. It didn’t really get much better after that.

Once, with tears streaming down my cheeks, blurry eyed, borderline hyperventilating, I raced at break neck speed up to a very busy roundabout. I managed to hesitate, then stall spectacularly, right in the middle of traffic, causing many cars to screech to an abrupt halt to miss hitting me. My rather po faced examiner was far from impressed!

Failure isn’t an option

Third time lucky? I wish. After driving so well I was certain I had passed, and overcome with emotion I managed to exceed the speed limit in the last minute and failed, of course…

I improved marginally but was told, repeatedly, just how fabulous a driver I was and how I should pass my test in no time. My poor dad also gave me lessons (which I don’t advise, purely because you can fall into bad habits, not adhering to ‘test’ conditions!) where I picked up conflicting information and methods of doing things, eg. parking! So, after a few months of appalling driving, I was rushed into a driving test which of course I failed MAGNIFICENTLY! The funny thing was, although I knew deep down I wasn’t ready and with parents concerned that I wasn’t up to standard, I didn’t think to cancel it. When you are repeatedly told how great a driver you are, you start to believe it!

Trust Your Gut

I had more driving tests, more failures, more shouting, swearing and conflicting advice from Darren, my driving instructor. Darren was bad tempered, rude, impatient and often made me cry. The perfect example really of how not to teach pupils. My driving lessons always started late. He was incredibly unreliable. On one test day, he turned up 30 mins late, cutting short my practise time beforehand. On another occasion I told him 2 months in advance I had found a test date, which he agreed to & gave me the appropriate lessons. Then, a week before, Darren states he’s double booked. Because of staff shortages and increased demand, I had to postpone my driving test for 3 months. Pissed off? Yeah. By this point I was more than test ready.

Perfect driver & rock bottom self-esteem

6 months later I was a perfectly good driver. However, much to my annoyance, nerves got the better of me, ensuring I made mistakes I would never normally make! Psychologically, I associated that test centre with negative thoughts of failure. I even contemplated hypnotherapy!

New driving instructor, different test centre & positive outlook!

I decided I needed a change pronto. Armed with a friend’s recommendation, I found a new driving instructor, Patrick* who was an absolute breath of fresh air! He retaught me a few things, instantly put me at ease, knew my confidence was rock bottom but quickly and effectively built it back up! I failed again in a different test centre due to nerves. I was in a state; I cried halfway through the test, but my driving was near perfect! A month later, I passed!

I was inspired to write my experience after reading oxjane – who failed 7 times. The thoughts and emotions she expressed, the sadness and the frustration really propelled me to carry on. It motivated me because, believe me… I was very close to giving up! Living where I live, transport links aren’t the best. The lack of freedom meant it was so much harder to organise socialising with friends, going to the gym and being spontaneous!

I hope you enjoyed reading this. I would love to hear your thoughts, experiences and advice in the comments below.

Love Career Girl!

xoxo

Dull hair to dazzling. Thanks Natural World!

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Dull, lifeless, lack lustre, split ends… my hair is basically anything but what I want it to be! I used to have gorgeous, shiny hair when I was much younger. Yet, as soon as I was a teenager, I discovered straighteners and ever since, my hair deteriorated.

My hair has a natural kink in it, so I straighten my hair daily and when I exercise or just need to power through a load of errands, I’ll tie my hair in a messy bun. Neither of which are particular good for your hair and so I was in serious need of some hair help!

I have tried a multitude of shampoos and am always on the look out for new, interesting hair products and so was over the moon to receive the Argan oil of Morocco Natural World range. These arrived a few weeks ago, beautifully wrapped and with simple but distinctive branding. This post is long over due but I wanted to give an honest opinion of the products! The past week I have been using the whole range (the hair oil I often forget! It’s not something I usually use!) and have been pleasantly surprised and satisfied with the product!

Honestly, considering the reasonable price of approx. £3.49, the products more than exceeded my expectations! I’m ashamed to say I often buy a brand that costs double the price! Would I buy & recommend this product? Yes!

My favourite products would have to be the shampoo/conditioner and the mask – my hair was beautifully shiny from just one wash, I was so amazed! The smell is not overly powerful, infused with Argan oil & essential oils including Rosemary,  Lemongrass, Orange & Ylang, which gently cleanse hair, adding moisture and a whole load of shine!

Packed with vitamin E, anti-oxidants and free from parabens, phosphates, dyes, gluten and 95% natural ingredients, these products really do what they say on the bottles!

Head to their website to explore their extensive range and for help choosing based on your hair dilemma! Have you tried them & what do you think? They are available in Tesco & on beauty and the bunch!

Let me know your thoughts in the comments!

Love, as always, Career Girl

xoxo

PS the range was kindly gifted to me but all opinions are solely my own!